How to Get a Girl to Fall in Love with You

If you want a girl out there to fall in love with you, chances are that you'll have to go that extra step to win her over. That's okay, though, because you're probably willing to do anything it takes. Follow the suggestions in this article to get a girl to fall in love with you. Love is an art, not a science, so try to think of these steps as fluid guidelines.

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Show her your lovable qualities. People don't just decide who they want fall in love with. Love happens because the people involved have lovable qualities. Love often develops over time, so your job is to show the girl that you're worth being around.
- Get a sense of humor. It's no secret that girls love guys who can crack a joke or be funny. Practice jokes on your friends every so often, and learn the jokes that work and the ones that don't work. When you're alone with a girl, telling a joke can be a great way to break the tension. Remember: if you're not good at jokes, you can still have a good sense of humor––you just have to love laughing and being around people who are funny.
- Be playful. One of the most important things girls look for in a partner is playfulness. So you want to be playful because she probably thinks that playfulness is attractive. How can you be playful? Make a boring routine, like studying, interesting by turning it into a song, for example. Don't take things too seriously. And most importantly, be able to laugh at yourself.
- Have confidence. To be genuinely lovable, you have to believe that you are worth being around. Most girls aren't attracted to people who are constantly putting themselves down. So be confident, but not cocky. Know what you are good at. Don't brag about it or show off, but put these things into your routine and don't be afraid to let them shine every once in a while.

Eliminate all expectations. Love lives in the absence of pressure. Letting go of your expectations will help you to relax, which will make you more appealing to a girl than if you are uptight and worried.
- Teach yourself to expect nothing from the girl so that you cannot be disappointed. If she does fall in love with you, you'll be pleasantly surprised.
- Remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea. If this particular girl doesn't work out, there will be other girls. If you don't get that special girl to fall in love with you, try not to get mopey and sad about it. It may feel good to pity yourself, but girls don't really think it's attractive.

Find out what she likes to do. Then do it with her. Doing something that you know she likes has the added advantages that she feels comfortable and safe doing it. If she's comfortable when you're out on a date, she's more likely get close to you, hold your hand, or even kiss you.
- Whether she likes surfing, horseback riding, shopping, or baking, it's a good idea to try to involve her in what she likes doing best. Ask her friend what she enjoys doing in her free time, or ask her yourself if you're feeling brave. (Fortune favors you.) That way, she'll know that you've taken the time to find out what makes her tick, and that you're ready to go that extra mile to make sure she's happy.
- Bonding over something she likes doesn't need to be a date, but if you want love to blossom, you're going to have to ask her on a date at some point. When you're ready to take that step, try someplace familiar like the movies, a coffee shop, or a dance. Maybe try taking her to an amusement park or a haunted house; studies suggest that excitement or a sense of danger on a date helps release a chemical in the brain that bonds the two people together.
- Be strategic about whether you call it a "date." Generally, if you've already won the girl over, you want to make it clear that you're going on a date. That's because she expects you to take the next step, and she wants to make sure you're both on the same page. But if you haven't won the girl over yet, it's probably best to slow-play the courtship, and win her over as a friend before you move on to the romantic relationship. Sometimes, the girl will resist a romantic relationship if she's not sure about whether you're good friends.

Give her space. This doesn't mean playing hard-to-get, but give the girl control over what happens next. Suffocating her and bullying her into a relationship will do the opposite of what you're hoping for. Show her you respect her life outside of you; when you give a girl room to breathe, she will often come to love you on her own terms.
- When you give her space, avoid being too distant. Keep calling her regularly and showing her that you're interested. If you're shy, don't give her too much space or she'll think you're not interested. You're going to have to come out of your shell a little bit if you want to get her attention.
- If you've just gone on a date with her, and everything has gone really well, tell her you'll call her before the weekend is up if it's Friday. Let her do her own thing on Saturday, and then give her a call on Sunday and tell her you had a really good time and you'd like to do something soon, perhaps next weekend. This would be a great time to ask her out to any parties or dances that are happening.
- Giving her space is all about showing her how confident you are. What you're basically saying is "I had a great time with you, and I like you, but I'm not going to come on super strong because I'm not desperate." Girls and guys are both attracted to people who are cool and calm, who don't jump the gun, and who aren't desperate.

Open your eyes to the possibilities. Girls are everywhere, and many girls are looking to fall in love. Don't get too hung up on getting one particular girl to fall in love with you, and don't try to "force" love on a girl who just isn't feeling it!
- Get to know more girls and give love more opportunities to blossom. Go to school socials and functions. Don't be afraid to go to a different school's social if a friend invites you. You never know when you might meet that special someone who'll knock the wind out of your lungs.
- Sometimes, when you stop looking for love, it hits you right in the face. The universe works in weird ways. Especially if you've tried really hard recently, or you think you've just run out of energy, don't be afraid to pull back from the fray. It sounds counter-intuitive, and it's frustrating to do, but it works: when you stop trying, girls tend to find you.
- Be adventurous. Maybe the girls you know all have boyfriends, or maybe they don't cut it for you. Plenty of guys these days are finding love outside of their immediate circles. If you're old enough, try internet dating. If you're interested in extracurriculars, get involved on a wider basis so that you could potentially travel. When looking for that girl of your dreams, it helps to keep an open mind and try as many different adventures as life throws at you.

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You may really want someone to fall in love with you, but make sure that you use your head as well as your heart. Love is only the starting point of a healthy relationship. The rest depends on communication, compatibility and commitment.

Start talking to her, and always be friendly, nice. You should start emailing or texting her. After you've talked for about a week and a half or so, ask her out on a date. But never express your feelings directly. One phrase doesn't change a girls mind about you. You will soon see how she feels. What you must know, is that you are either attracted to someone or not, if she has no feelings towards you she will most likely never. But if she keeps talking to you after you state your feeling, and keeps talking regularly then you've got a good chance. Stick at it.